This is about my housemate, who is a female. I don’t know what she is thinking bringing students into her ROOM and then asking him to bring in his slippers so that I don’t know that he is here. She already got herself into this whole mess with her class students because one of them seriously fell in love with her and couldn’t resist himself from expressing his feelings through constant gifts and also several visits to our house. I am not sure how many times he did come into our house because who knows she sneaked him into her room and hide all traces of his presence. There was only a few times where she met him outside at the park and in the living room. But even if she met that student in the park, if I were to take a photo of them together, everyone would say that they are not in a teacher-student stance but rather a boyfriend-girlfriend stance. This time she brought the student into her room and she locked her door and behaved all so suspiciously that it is really, really makes me uncomfortable.
I believe that it wasn’t totally the first student’s fault that the mess got more wrong and got messy that now he got so mad and so confused. Yes, he has a problematic family background that would contribute to his tendency to have feelings for young teachers but according to his friends, things never got messy in the previous time he did fell for the previous teacher. The teacher was a teacher and behaved like how a teacher would behave and so nothing ever happened. This time, however, the teacher did not behave like a teacher, did not treat students like how a teacher should and so welcomed a whole lot of inappropriate actions which she never did rejected until things worsen and I solemnly advised and warned her (and by the way, she did not like it and still thinks that her behaviour is appropriate!). Not just one student fell in love with her but three students and only one could pull himself together and not be swept away by those feelings.
It was pretty obvious the times she is doing something wrong and trying to hide. I don’t know if it was my own discernment but I can feel it and along with the evidences that confirms what is really happening. First, she doesn’t want to let me know and starts being quiet about things unlike usual. Then she starts sneaking around. And sorry to say, me being quite sensitive to my surroundings, I can hear the times she opens the doors and also the failed attempts to hide the male voice that leaks in between the sudden playing of loud music which she never does. And just now, hearing her door opening and the main door opening, I went out of my room to get my cake and lo and behold, a guilty-looking student was heading out holding his slippers muttering that he’s not here for long and is heading out.
I am not being stalker-ish by checking outside to see if there are any other slippers to find out if there are other people in the house which I am not being told of. But why does she have to behave so secretively like there is something to hide or she is doing something wrong? I have told her that if she needs to meet her students and she does not want to go out, they could hang out in our LIVING ROOM and chat and I would not bother them if they do not want to be bothered. But why behind locked doors in the room? Boyfriends, whatever, I don’t care since they don’t live by my standards although it does make me uncomfortable but students from my same school?
When you are a teacher, then you behave like a teacher. Your behavior starts from deep inside, not just your actions. What you believe, you are. So when you are a teacher, you know that you are a teacher, you treat your students as your students and they are never in your list of potentials of being your future spouse. When you are a teacher, you think as a teacher, from a teacher’s perspective and you do not separate yourself from that role as a teacher when you interact with students whenever and wherever you are. If you still do not know what is appropriate and what is inappropriate, it can be summarized like this:
How do you know when what you do is inappropriate?
When what you are doing and where you are with your student is known and seen by the principal, other teachers, other people and other students, it will not cause them to suspect you of any wrong behavior.
Sadly I am a witness of this kind of misbehavior. It may or may not be serious because I do not know what happened behind those closed doors. I could only trust that there are no misbehavior but still, those are highly inappropriate behaviors and I seriously do not like it.
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