Friendship

I have given thought. 

I have given thought to what people will think of me after I finish my degree. But of course there is a degree, a limit, a balance as to not let myself be dictated by what others think of me. But...

What legacy would I leave behind?

I want people to know that I always remained true. Want it or not, admit it or not, see it or not, all that I did was genuine. All the smiles and help I give, I give with a sincere heart. They told me that I will find life time friends in university, I was set out to find those friends of a lifetime. One did bad, I let go and give second chances. 

Whatever hell I have been through, not all will know the whole story. Those who know and are good friends now, even some of them are involved in some of it that happened in the earlier days. But all is forgiven. They are good friends who are true and the past is forgiven and let go. 

Friends genuinely love, share their lives, support each other, stand up for each other when they are wronged. We talk lovingly to each other when the other has wronged them, we give constructive criticisms, we talk respectfully to each other and appreciate each other, we do things that build each other up and we remain true to each other. 

I will die for these friends, gladly sacrifice time for these friends, go out of my way to help these friends and give all that I can to these friends.

We don't force each other to reveal everything to each other. We give the needed space to each other. We respect each others' privacy and we do not speak deceitfully about each other. We do not ask each other to conform to each others' principles, we respect them and we give and take. Each person is free, each person is their own individual. 

That is what friendship is for me, for us. Not some trashy teenage one-rule-book friendship which forces people to conform and... just watch Mean Girls and you'll get it.