The Things You Have a Choice In

There are things that happened in my life lately. The previous posts leaked out a bit. But that's just the frustration. Those things show me how much control I have over things around me. And the amount of control I have over things show me that I have a choice throughout the happenings. It sounds like having control and choices run parallel. It's true - We have a choice concerning the things we have control over. In other words, when we have a choice about something (meaning we can choose) we have control and power over that thing. I'll give more specific answers as I go on.

There are lots of things which we are in control of, and in which we have a choice in our lives which we may and may not be aware of. We well see a few of them today. We have control and a choice in:

1. Our reactions

Reaction is defined as : An action or statement in response to a stimulus or other event.

So if someone gives us a smile, we have a choice of whether to smile back or maintain your poker face. If someone gives us a gift or an invitation, we have a choice to accept or decline it. If someone shouts at us, we have a choice to shout back or keep quiet or talk to the person nicely. If someone slaps us, we can either slap back or suck up our breath and anger and walk away or ask the person nicely why they slap us. If someone wrongly accuse us of something, we have a choice to strongly defend ourselves or keep quiet and let the truth speak for itself (or let God defend you). If someone hurt you, you have a choice to hurt the person back or forgive the person. If the person fails to be considerate to you, you have a choice to do the same thing back or continue to be nice.

2. Our attitudes

Attitude is: Disposition or state of mind. (Temperamental make-up or habitual mood)

If someone gives us advice, we have a choice to accept it and think about it or think that the person is a busybody nosing into your business. If someone of higher authority scold you for something, you have a choice to hate the person or to realise your mistake and try to avoid it. If someone pushes into you, you have a choice to think that the person did it accidentally or intentionally. If someone points out your flaws, mistakes and weakness, you have a choice to accept it and make changes or you can choose to ignore the person and say that the person is a snob for pointing out people's mistakes.

3. Our feelings

We can actually choose how we feel by manipulating our thoughts. There are some emotions that we, ourselves, choose to feel whereas others come from deep within that takes a longer time to change to the one you choose to feel. When someone made you sad by ignoring you, you have a choice to either continue to feel sad and indulge in it or you can forget about that friend and know that there are other friends to be with and be happy about it. When friends forget about your birthday you have a choice to organise one yourself and go have fun or go treat yourself something nice or you can hide yourself in your room and emo on your own asking yourself why people forgot about you. Those that are harder to deal with would be like the death of parents, breaking up with someone, when someone close stab us in the back or deliberately hurt us or even falling in love with a particular person. Although it is hard, it is not impossible. We still have control over them.

So these are the three I would talk about. If not, some people are complaining that my posts are extremely long. You just tidak biasa baca aje lah. So, be aware that YOU have a CHOICE and the choice will lead to consequences. The consequences can be good or bad, depending on the choice that you made. So you have the power and the control, if you want good consequences then make the right choice. If you just don't care and simply make your choices, then be mindful that the consequences of your choices will always come back to you and you cannot run from it.

Be wise in making your choices!